30 Day Blog Challenge: Day 21

Please refer back to my earlier posts and read what this challenge is about so that the later posts make sense 🙂

Day 21 Question #21: What is the greatest lesson your children have ever taught you?

Answer: The one thing  I have learned after all these years of raising kids is how amazingly resilient their spirits are. When something bad happens they shrug it off more readily and easily than adults. I have asked my kids through the years to think back about when we were going through a rough spot, as a family or in my marriage to their dad. Their answers amaze me because I used to think that they would remember all the bad stuff in detail. Their answers that reflect that even though they knew times were bad, they took the good memories and cling to them. With the not so good things, they talk about it candidly and even laugh about some of the outlandish things they’ve seen.

A child’s bounce back ability is so amazing to me. I have seen each of my kids go through a terrible disappointment and be completely heart-broken and frustrated, only to shrug it off the next day. They move on quickly where adults linger in things that ought be discarded. That’s one of the biggest things I have learned from my kids. If things don’t happen like I thought they were going to, I follow their example; cry, shrug and move on.

Let Kids BE Kids

LET KIDS BE KIDS!

On Sunday Johnnie has tennis lesson.
Come Monday it’s piano.
Tuesday the tutor comes
to teach him Latin and Esperanto.
Wednesday is his cooking lesson,
Thursday he takes fencing.
By Friday Johnnie is worn out
but off he goes to batting practice.
On Saturday he wished he could snooze
but oh no- he better win and not lose!
The game is all about his parents
no one ever bothered asking Johnnie,
what HE dreams of doing-
no one ever let Johnnie daydream.
 
So Johnnie grows up frustrated, annoyed and irritated;
now he goes off to a job he hates.
And John has a son-Junior.
And John does the same to him.
Only this time Junior has a back bone.
Junior says, “No way!”
“Dad, I love you!”
” Dad, thanks but no thanks.
I have dreams I must do.
I’m gonna be who I wanna be.
I was born to be ME;
and not a little replica of you!”
 
Eva Santiago COPYRIGHT 2011