Your wealth is where your friends are. - Latin Proverb
One who is our friend is fond of us: One who is fond of us isn’t necessarily our friend. – Seneca
DAUGHTERS of SARAH VS TODDLERS and TIARAS
Ok, I hate to admit it after all I’ve heard about Toddlers and Tiaras I finally watched one episode. The other night my 11-year-old daughter and I sat down to watch this ridiculous show in the hopes of getting a few laughs. Well, I came away completely disgusted. A single viewing of that show cured the curiosity in both of us.
Seriously what are these parents thinking or are they even doing that? Don’t they realize the message they are conveying to their kids? All children are impressionable, and at the age their parents are putting them on display, they are the most impressionable. At one competition the MC was telling the audience some details about a baby girl who was up on the stage. She couldn’t even walk by herself, her mom was holding her by the hand and steadying her. Meanwhile the MC announced that the little girl‘s dream was to be just like her mother. I couldn’t help but laugh; who are they kidding, that baby girl is barely learning to talk and she said that?
Another incident that bothered me was when they showed a girl of around 8 or 9 years old who said she was just there to win the cash. Afterwards when she didn’t win, her sour attitude showed through and the girl said she’d be back to win the cash next time. And finally, the most heart wrenching thing I heard was the girl who won the coveted tiara along with $1000 cash hugged her mom saying,” Mom I got our money back!” What in the world?
I am blessed with 3 very beautiful daughters. When their great-grandmother saw them for the first, she flat-out told me to put them in pageants because she knew they could be future Miss Americas. I knew where this was going and I politely told her that I’d rather have my daughters known for having both brains and allurement. At the risk of sounding old school, I’m going there for minute. My good old-fashioned morals have served me well throughout my whole life and there is a tremendous value in passing your moral convictions to your kids.
1 Peter 3:3-7
Your beauty should not consist in externals such as fancy hairstyles, gold jewelry or what you wear; rather let it be the inner character of your heart with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit. In God‘s sight this is of great value. This is how the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves and submit to their husbands, the way Sarah obeyed Abraham…. You are her (Sarah’s) daughters if you do what is right and do not succumb to fear.
Where are the moms who are following Sarah’s example in training up young girls? A long time ago when I used to attend church, people commented on how attractive my girls are. I appreciated it at first but then it got old after awhile. One day the pastor kept doting on my oldest daughter and I told him. ” You know, God told me to bring my kids up in humility because that’s what’s going to make them truly lovely from the inside out. That’s the kind of beauty that stays with you long after your outward charm fades and believe me, it will. None of us are immune from that.” He never doted on my girls after that.
How tragic that those toddlers in their tiaras aren’t allowed to play like normal little girls. Instead they train through rigorous hours of modeling, teaching them to walk seductively. Instead of playing with dolls they are enrolled in beauty school where it’s all about fake hair, nails, tans and teeth. The cutest aspect of childhood is the toothless grins little kids give. Now, those girls are taught that it’s not ok to have missing or crooked teeth so they pop in the fake ones. And there goes that adorable smile. Could it possibly be that when these young girls grow up they’ll end up spending millions of dollars on breast implants, tummy tucks, Botox treatments and too much plastic surgery all because they were introduce early on in their lives to that world? The world that screamed out at them that they aren’t good enough unless they look perfect.
After studying the parents during the show all I can say is that it seems to me that some of them are living their lives vicariously through their kids. The parents are the driving force; teaching their kids early about being competitive when all those kids want to do is go to the park, play ball and dig in the sand box. My oldest girls who were viewing the show with me commented that those parents are abusing their kids just by not letting them be kids and expecting way too much from them.
ABU’SE, v.t. s as z. [L. abutor, abusus of ab and utor, to use; Gr. to accustom. See Use.]
1. To use ill; to maltreat; to misuse; to use with bad motives or to wrong purposes; as, to abuse rights or privileges.
They that use this world as not abusing it. 1Cor. vii.
2. To violate; to defile by improper sexual intercourse.
3. To deceive; to impose on.
Nor be with all these tempting words abused.
4. To treat rudely, or with reproachful language; to revile.
He mocked and abused them shamefully.
5. To pervert the meaning of; to misapply; as to abuse words.ABU’SE, n. Ill use; improper treatment or employment; application to a wrong purpose; as an abuse of our natural powers; an abuse of civil rights, or of religious privileges; abuse of advantages, &c.
Dear readers, the youth have spoken. Do you agree or disagree? I look forward to your comments. Please refrain from submitting any trashy comments. I’m not here to pass judgement. If you’re a T-n-T parent, please read this and maybe it could help you.
-Eva Santiago Copyright 2012